" Perception outweighed reality "
Dear diary,
Sometimes in life we always wondered what lies ahead for us. Some of us had our destiny set for us before our birth, some were born to search for their destiny Some were born to follow, some were born to lead. Most were born to plan their destiny
In life, some things are really predictable. Take for example, some relationship could foreseen scenario of " Breaking up " , " Marrying to one another " , " Become strangers ". Its a routine that one cannot cease to deny. But we always blind ourselves with words and self-denial illusion. Telling ourselves, that the other party would change , would love us and blah blah blah.
Yes, we live in a self-denial world. Most of us do, but who dares to admit they really do?
Some feel that its vulnerable being honest, i think its vulnerable when you think you're great at lying but in fact you ain't even close to being good. How ironic our world could be.
But what's our own destined ? It all lies in your hand ( No, it doesn't mean you're holding with your bare hands ) . Some people were born to excel in studies, some were born to excel in sports, some were born to excel in business, some were born to excel in planning, some were born to write, some were born to draw. Etc..
No, i don't believe in, people are born to be stupid. No one is, unless of course birth defect causes a person ability of senses cease to nothing. Everyone was born with something they're good at . It was just a matter of time how to open their inner thoughts and fears to face what they're good at.
Sometimes, no actually Most of the times we feel pressure by our peers to excel in things. Some feel pressurized to score well, some feel pressurized to look good, some feel pressurized to be skinny, some feel pressurized to wealth. Honestly, Why do we let people determine who we're ?
Till the end of the day, are you the one living your life, or them determine your life path? IF you choose the second option, gosh that's really terrible for you. Because this mean you have proven you failed yourself miserably . One should always have a strong mentaility to survive in this cruel world.
It sounds easier in words than action. But nothing comes easy, does it?
Like a relationship, it takes both parties to get together. Planned their future and move towards their future. Some relationship failed due to Monetary , some due to Unsatisfied Sex, some due to Attitude, some due to Parents. Most failed due to Communication .....
I'm not the best person when it comes to handling a relationship. I have my ups and down moment. People usually think i'm tough because i look tough. Honestly, i have my vulnerable periods. Where i like to stay in the circle of protective friends.
I handled relationship sometimes in a very delusive way that leads to misunderstanding.
Sometimes when the relationship is called off, the guy called and demand why haven't i called him since the break up.
I simply replied in a extremely mono tone, very calm " I thought we broke up, why should i bother calling you? ". Now, people think i'm barbarous . In fact i thought alot before i said that sentence.
True, part of me wanna call back him and tell him i missed him terribly. But what good can it comes?
Us getting back together, and have another reason to break up ? Nah, bullshit. In the first place, why could break up occur when communication was good? Its just bout feelings man, it all boils down to how we handled it. Instead of breaking up, we could have suggested " Working it out ".
There's no such things as cooling off period. It just shows that between you guys, your feelings for each other have faded long ago. If you guys love each other. Why not work things out instead of settling it for "Cooling off " ?
So whats the definition of cooling off to people?
My guy mates cooling off was : Time to fuck around with some bitches, time to flirt, time to think whether a relationship suits them.
My girl mates cooling off was : TIME TO PARTY, time to cry over some bullshit guys did, time to change themselves to attract their guy .
Mine cooling off was : Equivalent to fuck off.
No one's perfect, remember this. She isn't , so are you *grins*
xoxo.
